Posts tagged boy troubles
Posts tagged boy troubles
Now is the point where I listen to Finch’s What It Is to Burn on repeat for the whole day, because let’s face it:
Like a bad star
I’m falling faster down to
Is exactly how I feel.
Why don’t I ever listen to real love songs?
I’ve been singing I Won’t Say (I’m in Love) all day.This is a terrible sign.
I only go out with guys named Justin, Mike, or Jimmy. Seriously, it’s like a revolving door of names. If a guy named Stephen wants to hang out I’m just going to give up and move to an Asian country where people will have completely non-Anglo names.
Julie Roberts - Men and Mascara
“Did I give my love too soon or wait too long?
Did I take it a little too easy or put it on too strong?
She was looking for love, he was looking for fun
Men and mascara always run
She ain’t getting any younger, it wasn’t supposed be this way
Staring in the mirror with little black rivers running down her face”
Well he was a nice distraction, and I actually think he saw me as sexy and interesting, but it’s over now. Time to get back to the business of fixing my shit-shambles life.
I just feel things too strongly. When I fall, I fall hard and fast. It doesn’t matter if it’s in or out of love, my heart falls fast.
I’m beginning to think that love—at least in my case—is as addicting and unhealthy as the cigarettes were.
Maybe I should just quit that cold turkey too?
It’s just scary.
I missed you for the first time today. I thought I did. Then I realized that I couldn’t have. I missed you all of those times before when you were supposed to be here and you weren’t; the times I called and wrote and got no answer. But no, truly, I didn’t miss you even then. I couldn’t have. To miss you I’d have to care.
I missed arms. I missed comfort. I missed someone holding me despite the pain. I missed the idea of solace, the soothing balm of someone’s concern for my pain above all else. It was never you I longed for. You are undeserving of even being thought a specific provider of those those things. You’d had to have shown me something like love first. You didn’t.
Even now when I wake up in the night in jagged pain and reach confused across the tops of my sheets for someone close, I am not reaching for you. I am reaching for the idea of a man you could never be. I am reaching with fingers that cannot feel, cannot touch, and cannot hold. If someone were there I wouldn’t know it anyway. It is no change from when you were my lover.
My nerves will heal. My fingers will clench again. I will reach out every night until they do. No, not for you—or a mythical man that will never be—but for the sheer joy of that luscious pain. Every time my tendons strain, my nerves sizzle, my skin tingles or my arteries twinge I will know that I am getting stronger. It will be my arm, frail now but not always, that will hold me at night. Oh I’ll share my bed again. I’ll feel skin with my reborn fingertips. My spine will strain and my hips churn. I’ll fuck for fun and smile in the heat of sweat-rank close proximity.
But I will need no arm for my solace save for the one that waves goodbye.
These guys are going to get me through today. Somehow, despite my bum arm, I’m getting to the store and I’m buying new sheets—ones that no one has slept in. They’ll be my sheets.
I’ll clean my room, make a fresh start, and try to get out downtown to take some more photos.
For all the times you called me yours. For all the times you said “nibbles” in that stupidly cute tone of voice as you bit me on my shoulder. For all the times we went to the movies. For all the times I defended you when my friends said you were a jerk. For all the times my mother said you were no good and I said she was wrong. For that time I bottomed for you even though it really hurt and I have issues with it. For that time I slashed my arm open and you kept pressure on it while the paramedics arrived. For that time you sat with me in the hospital while I almost died and you said that you loved me.
For all of that, and for saying “I guess I’m too busy for a boyfriend,” I hope you experience everything that I just mentioned…
And I hope you have it forcibly ripped away.
In the words of the great Pam Grier:
“Death is too easy for you, bitch! I want you to suffer.”
I’m actually a bit nervous about getting my cast off and sutures out today. I’m not scared of the pain, I’m worried about the scar. It’s been under some sort of cast for almost a month, and I’ve only had to look at it once. I’m not ready for it to be out for everyone to see, and I’m not ready to have to make up some elaborate lie as to why I have it. Also it’s been somewhat easy to ignore how badly I’m damaged. It’s been just shy of a month, and I still can’t use my hand. Without the cast I’m going to have to face the fact my hand may never work right again.
If it were winter I’d simply wear one of my coats and a long glove on my arm, but since it’s over 100 degrees most days I don’t think I’ll be doing my Rogue impression anytime soon, despite my bi-colored hair.
My friends want me to go out of town with them in a week for birthday party shenanigans and drinking. My mom wants me to come stay with her to “relax and straighten out my priorities.” I haven’t the heart to tell them I just want to hide in my house. I really don’t want to be seen by anyone. I feel broken at best, ugly and branded with a Scarlet Letter-magnitude mark of shame at worst.
And I’m pretty sure my boyfriend is over me. It’s not painful, not like my arm. I just wish he’d say it so I can shift my focus fully over to myself and my recovery, such as it is. Communication isn’t his forte, though.
It’s been 26 days since I quit smoking.
I don’t even feel like me these days. I’m completely lost.